When it comes to bondage, let Toronto Dominatrix Mistress Mindy show you the ropes

Hello Lovelies,

I receive emails all the time from people asking about bondage. Every level – from ‘I’ve never been bound at all’ to ‘I need to be restrained, and not just a pair of handcuffs behind my back’ to ‘I barely want to be able to breathe’. Granted, the last one ventures into the extreme with mummification (which I LOVE), but we’ll save that for another day. I should also be clear that while I am familiar with Shibari (the magnificent art of intricate Japanese rope play), this blog will not deal with that.

Bondage requires a lot of trust, whether you’re experimenting with a partner, or even with your sexy Toronto Domme! You are giving complete control to another person, so make sure you’re comfortable with the person you choose to explore with.

Bondage is perfect for restraining a sub for a number of purposes, but I’ll focus on two.

Pain – perhaps you deserve to be punished because you’re not applying yourself properly, or you’re a masochist who loves the feeling of a well-placed paddle; of course, human nature is to attempt to avoid pain. The right use of ropes and cuffs helps you receive that beating you so deserve. 

Pleasure – perhaps you have very little self control and you want someone else to teach you, to tease you to that line where euphoria is a breath away… then it is taken away like that. Not having the ability to contribute to that situation can be excruciating… and otherworldly.

So how does Mistress Mindy handle her little subbies?

Rope – In my dungeon, I have a lot of rope – not the rough kind you use to tie a tarp to patio furniture in the winter, but luxurious soft white rope that does its job without giving you a rash. The very simple flexibility of rope allows me to tie your hands together in front of you or behind your back, hogtie your wrists to your ankles, or wrap you up with your arms to your sides like an old Scooby Doo cartoon.

Cuffs – some people simply can’t get comfortable being tied up with ropes, so I have high end leather cuffs to comfortably fasten wrists and ankles – they allow me to maintain similar control using ropes through secure metal loops, but without the sub feeling ropes rubbing against them.

Sofa – Once bound, subs can easily be pushed onto my couch, which has a casual feel. With a blindfold, they can envision themselves in a personal situation, where perhaps a spouse or boss has them in an office or at home, amplifying every sensation that much more because of the reality playing out in their mind.

Massage Table – this works beautifully for medical fantasies when I have my Dr. Mindy hat on. The sadistic doctor has taken the examination a little further and the sub has no control over the situation. Here, subs find themselves on their back spread eagle, or on their front with their entire backside exposed and ready.

St. Andrews Cross – this is one of my most popular features. I do not have a cheap plastic flimsy cross – my St. Andrews Cross is hand-made and supported by chains – it supports over 600 lbs. True story – a 300 lb sub was once bound to the cross, his knees buckled from the pleasure and on a lesser cross, he’d have fallen flat on his face with no way to protect himself. My cross held him up by his wrists – no broken nose for him.

Anyway, back to the point – the cross adds that extra element of kink that many fantasize about. Being bound standing with arms and legs spread (again, front or back exposed) is the pinnacle for pain-seekers, but also spectacular for teasing and edging. Not to mention, blindfolded, ears plugged, lights out, bound to a cross standing as your Mistress leaves you alone indefinitely to ponder when she’s coming back for you; the anticipation is like no other.

As you can see in the main image for this post, a recent female sub enjoyed nipple clamps while her hands were cuffed in front of her (for her own comfort), yet she was bound to the cross in a way she couldn’t move at all.

Truth be told, bondage is a subject that could be discussed at great length and from a number of different angles. But this is an overall summary of how I handle bondage in my dungeon, and what you could experience if you are interested.

If you have additional questions, by all means, contact me and I’d be happy to discuss them with you.